My only suggestion is to ask if you can take over the responsibility of getting BL an online grocery slot so you can do it at a reasonable hour instead of your SIL having to stay up until the wee hours to do the same thing.  Can it be done online?  Can BL just make a shopping list and you log in and hit "send" or whatever it is you need to do?

Should BL be on regular medication and are you sure she's taking it? If you have any doubts batter the GP to get social services to provide a regular (daily) visitor to check medication consumption. This is a visitor, even if they don't stay long, which may help.
Does anyone have medical power of attorney for her? Can this be invoked?
Sounds like the WI ladies are great. Hopefully now she's on their radar they will arrange regular visits/trips as much as possible.
Can she bubble with another household too (not sure of local regulations in Nottingham but these could be googled).
Is BL up for any online games (there used to be some which could be shared real-time via Skype? Mr Limey and I used them to keep each other company when I was travelling.
 

I don't know about medical Power of Attorney.  If it is anyone, it might be my sis but I don't think it is because she would have mentioned it when we were discussing intervening with GP?  All that used to be beest and I know BL needed sis' address when she was redoing her will after beest died.  I'll ask sis when she'd finished work.

sis is looking at a private option, but the meals need to be fresh and hot each day.  she has a freezer full of frozen meals, but she's too down to zap them, she just makes another veg-free sandwich.  BL is still thinking about it AFAIK.

On the upside, she is FINALLY, allegedly, getting her bloods done tomorrow, the nurse came and helped her with lotion and is arranging for a carer to come (hurrah!!!!! finally!).  The women from the WI have been tremendous, and the first (unsolicited) assistance item I sent was well received, the one I discussed with her and a fun thing are in a package waiting to be opened tomorrow, and she already asked me to order another assistance item (HUGE step forward) so I have -and added another unsolicited one sis suggested and another fun item.  I really think her life would be greatly improved by having a walker with a seat and have tentatively suggested it in the past, but -like most of us would- she resents the idea that she needs help (and then just doesn't do things because she can't).  Maybe we're now finally headed in a direction where she will say yes.  I hope so, I worry about her becoming a prisoner in her house.

Today she reports feeling "a little more lively" and certainly sounds happier and now has a slew of people lined up to come in and help ......which make sis suspect it's way, way worse than BL has let on to us, even recently when she's finally felt ok saying she needed help.    Bajaboi skyped BLyesterday and said she looked terrible (first time he has seen her since she got bronchitis weeks ago).  Which begs to question .......why in the holy fuck did fucking useless son-in-law NOT DO ANYTHING???????? (other than not go around because she wouldn't be able to make him cups of tea while he sat oon the sofa and played on his phone)   He's the only one who's been in a position to see how it really is and seems to have turned a blind eye so as to minimize the inconvenience to himself.   He bangs on about working for the NHS (supply chain) .........thank goodness he has cow orkers or the NHS would have collapsed long ago

/rant.  maybe.

Hon, I can only imagine how difficult this has all been, trying to help and intervene from a distance. Glad things are moving in a better direction. 

Well.......
sigh.....

She refused meals on wheels.  I sent her various aid items she seems to have like and some fun ones (mixed reception but today's packages of a boombox cd/radio with batteries and a christmas songs cd seem well received, except for being delivered to the front door instead of the back door even though she still needs visitors to bring the packages in and the front door is apparently at the back of the house and more hidden from potential thieves.... ???? dontfuckingaskmeimaboutreadytosplode)   but I digress.  She got set up with health professionals visiting and some home help and a cleaner.......

....then had a fall.  

She used her emergency button and an ambulance was called.  And then while she was waiting for the ambulance, the call-button people phoned (to see if the ambulance had arrived yet) so she dragged herself across the floor to answer the fucking phone sand caused herself all sorts of strain injuries.  Only a bit of bruising from the fall though.  When the ambulance arrived, they got her up, checked her over and left her to it.

Anyway, that at least made her accept meals on wheels.  She thinks it's temporary ...but we'll see..... ;)

SHE IS DRIVING US NUTS which I hope means she is on the mend.  But she tells different people different things.  Like she told us she wasn't eating properly because she couldn't be bothered to cook veg but she seems to have told the health team it was because she can't carry it from the kitchen to the living room, so they delivered her a trolley to help.  Which is actually a walking frame with baskets.  of course, she's not fucking using it or she wouldn't have fallen.......

thanks for letting me rant   It helps me try to be kind and patient when dealing with her  (not my fortes, I'm sure you'd be shocked to learn)

It would have helped too if she had told me she needed/wanted items delivered to the back door....  I have never seen her current house so how in the fuck am I supposed to know.... stilln I know now. Next up is a thermos flask so she can make multiple cups of tea and pour them as needed to save trekking back and forth to the kitchen with hot liquids etc.

Dad pulls that different stories for different people thing. He  usually dumps on and manipulates my younger sister who is frankly an easy target. For the rest of us everything is great!

You’re in tough position Monster. Not much you can do, really. Hugs to you x

She does take doc prescribed meds.  But the supplements are doc recommended, but don't require a prescription.  So obviously are not important.

My (evil) hope is the iron supplements the doc has now prescribed will give her constipation enough that she'll reconsider the more natural alternative for iron intake.  The problem is.... they're yet another thing best taken with food, and she uses any medication that should be taken with food as a reason to have an extra meal.....

Sis is worried and thinks that BL is also worried that the November crap was covid and this is long covid :/ (the lungs)

I am the old timer in my family, dreading the time when (if) I become the "old timer" and don't know it.

OFFS a 75yo woman who feels "grotty" has suspected fluid on her lungs....chest xray scheduled for April 8th.  Nearly two weeks.