The Cellar » xoxoxobruce

Glinda · 1/22/2025 2:47 am

Dear friends: I haven't been an active member of the community for quite some time (didn't even realize there was a new iteration of the message board), but I have been in daily contact with xoxoxobruce for years.

After radio silence for a few days, and reaching out to him via internet/phone without any response, I called the Pennsylvania State Police to do a wellness check this morning.

I'm so sorry to tell you that our friend Bruce has passed away. 😓💔 At this point I don't know anything about services, but I will post here if I get more information.

If any of YOU are able to provide more info on cremation/burial/services/whatever, or know how to contact friends or family, please do so. His brother has been notified by police and I will reach out to him in the next few days in hopes of getting more information.

I would really like to be there for whatever services there might be for him. Please let me know if any of you come up with additional information.

Thank you all.

Rest in peace, good friend. 😓💔

griff · 1/22/2025 7:20 am

Thank you, Glinda.
This is a tough one. I think we all learned something from Bruce. He was so good about checking in on people. He made community. Be well people. G

Clodfobble · 1/22/2025 8:16 am

Ah, damn. Okay. Shit.

Thanks very much for coming here and letting us know, Glinda. He will be deeply missed.

glatt · 1/22/2025 8:51 am

Thank you, Glinda. I'd missed him in recent times and wondered about him. I'll miss him too.

glatt · 1/22/2025 11:09 am

Glinda, thanks especially for calling the authorities to check on him.

Flint · 1/22/2025 11:56 am

I don't know what to say. Is this really happening?

Glinda · 1/22/2025 1:45 pm

glatt wrote:
Glinda, thanks especially for calling the authorities to check on him.

I was concerned after 2 days of not hearing from him. Became more concerned when he didn't respond to my messages. Then dread set in, because I knew he rarely got visitors and if he was in trouble, no one would know. So I called the State Police.

To their credit, they were very proactive - after my initial request for a wellness check, a sergeant called back to get more detailed information about Bruce and possible nearby friends or family. I only knew that he had a brother (apparently, they weren't on the best of terms; Bruce never shared much about him, other than that he existed). I'm grateful they worked so hard to track him down and let him know.

I was also able to find the message board for the SSR club he was a long time member of. It's amazing how many people he was in regular contact with that cared about him. I hope he knows what an impact he made on so many lives. He's certainly been an incredible friend to me through the years. 💔

Flint · 1/22/2025 6:05 pm

We should have a service where we talk about things we remember about Bruce.

I've known him for 19 years, but many of y'all already knew each other when I joined the Cellar in 2006.

Clodfobble · 1/22/2025 6:42 pm

Does anyone stay in touch with Tony? I feel like he'd want to know, but other than sending him a PM here or at the old site, I don't have a good way to reach out.

monster · 1/22/2025 6:52 pm

Clodfobble wrote:
Does anyone stay in touch with Tony? I feel like he'd want to know, but other than sending him a PM here or at the old site, I don't have a good way to reach out.

we were fb friends -might still be but I muted. will look

Last edited by monster (1/23/2025 8:39 am)

tw · 1/22/2025 8:27 pm

Glinda wrote:
I'm so sorry to tell you that our friend Bruce has passed away.

What part of PA is he in?

griff · 1/23/2025 7:21 am

Brookhaven

monster · 1/23/2025 8:42 am

Ok he does still appear to be active on FB. was anyone able to get in touch in the meanwhile?

Clodfobble · 1/23/2025 8:43 am

Sexobon says he was able to send an email and get a response from UT, so that's good.

lumberjim · 1/24/2025 7:46 pm

The night before I heard he'd died, I was in my basement smoking because it was so fucking cold out. There's this big slab of black walnut that he gave me down there leaning against the wall. He brought it to me out of the blue one day. I wasn't home, but he met Amanda that day.

She had no idea who this guy was, but took it in stride. Since then his home made ink jet printed Christmas cards always had some reference to the fact that I was out of my league. So I guess he approved....but then... He never had pants on (iykyn)

I would get emails from him about guitars and cars. And those terrible yucks jokes.

I called him once when he went silent for a bit a couple years ago, but he was fine.

It's really sad that he died alone and days passed before anyone knew.

Thank you glinda.

Bruce, I'll keep you with me. This year's card will come out with the tree from now on.

Look closer. Everything is interesting.

lumberjim · 1/24/2025 11:54 pm

Sorry, I've not paid attention. Who is anon?

glatt · 1/25/2025 5:18 pm

aka sexobon.

Those are nice magnifiers

griff · 1/26/2025 12:02 pm

Yeah, very nice.

I've enjoyed Bruces cards and the nuts.com supplies. I think he was trying to tell me something. He accused me of being out of my league spouse wise as well,.. he's not wrong. Bruce had a nice relationship with my mother-in-law before she passed. He was buying her art and passing it on, I think. He seemed to follow his first impulse with people, something I'm terrible at.

gtown · 1/26/2025 10:56 pm

Wow, this is so sad. I’ve been a mostly lurker on here for a long time with a lot of changes in people and tone but Bruce was a constant bright light.

Regardless of the circumstances, in reality we all die alone, but his community and connection was huge. He will be massively missed…

Flint · 1/29/2025 4:29 pm

thank you

Limey · 2/02/2025 8:33 am

As the female half of a marital pair (and neither of us ever met Bruce), he said to me he got the impression that a woman's attitude to the man they married was pretty much the same as towards the pets they adopted ...

tw · 2/02/2025 12:22 pm

Ask as they ask in a game show. True or False?

Last edited by tw (2/03/2025 6:09 pm)

Flint · 2/03/2025 12:19 pm

I get thread drift and all, but maybe, like some contextual awareness is okay to have in certain situations.

footfootfoot · 2/11/2025 10:56 pm

Ahh. crap. Bruce has been such a great friend over the years, and has helped me out of a jam a few times. I'd say, easily 50% of my inbox is emails from Bruce, mainly his "daily dump". They come so relentlessly that I'd only get to a couple of them a week. At one point I was running out of storage space and I briefly thought about bulk deleting all the unread emails from him but then I thought, someday, I'll want to read these when he's not around any longer, so I kept them and archived them. I have enough to keep me going for the next 10 or 15 years.
He once drove 5 hours to my house to deliver a sand blasting cabinet that he didn't need and that he'd never even set up. I asked him if he wanted to stay over and he said, nope - it's only a five hour drive. I have to find the photo I took that day.

Diaphone Jim · 2/12/2025 11:59 am

Speaking of a photo, I wonder how crass it is to express my curiosity about both Bruce's appearance and name.