I'm so sorry

I would think that outpatient knee replacement would be more for the young and active.
Cognitive problems are often related to deep and/or repeated general anesthesia, something the outpatient thing might alleviate.
Multiple falls are scary.  I hope today's doc consultation is a good one.   

Thanks guys. We're working the problems.

Non-professional anecdotal thing I'll just toss in here... Nitrous oxide, which is very often used before the IV anesthesia, causes severe depletion of B12, which is one potential cause of cogitive problems. The general scuttlebutt among MDs is that it's no big deal, because your body will just replenish its supply after a few meals. But if your body ain't so great at absorbing B12 anymore (only about 1.5 feet of the dozen-foot-long small intestine can actually absorb B12 at all), or you're someone who doesn't eat a lot of red meat in general, that B12 deficit can persist indefinitely.

If one were interested in testing this out as a potential cause of post-surgery cognitive problems, one would want to look for a "sublingual methylated B12" supplement at the local health-food store.

Pete's mom isn't doing great. This morning she is saying she doesn't want to go to New Hampshire for her sides family reunion. *live update* Now she's going. Her lack of confidence is the counter-weight to my Dad's over-confidence. He disabled his tractor in routine maintenance yesterday. He's been driving it all over the country but I see worse drivers on the road every day... just thinking out loud.

It might be time for a re-watch. Empathy is probably the secret sauce here.

Thanks V, much appreciated.

We've been pulling shifts at the hospital. The morphine dose went up yesterday so she's not in as much pain but she also isn't connected to reality. We had our last real communication a day and a half or two days ago.

She passed yesterday, They had to remove the stones before doing the gallbladder surgery. The gall stone removal didn't go perfectly and she suffered a perforation (maybe the duodenum). It was leaking and needed to heal before gall bladder surgery. She was not someone to handle pain and she had a lot. She told the doctor quite specifically that she was ready to die. So, here we are in the post life. She has not been herself since her husband died and this was her chance to control her fate.

Thanks Clod. The girls and I are hanging out reading letters from Gramma doing some crying and laughing as it should be. peace

Thank you for the kind words guys.

Warning: Unkind words and first world problems to follow
We are now finding out what a shitstorm her finances were despite a nice pension and SS. Pete and I paid the funeral home out of pocket since her taxes are due and there is just enough in her account to pay them. Also a person who shall remain nameless used her debit card to go grocery shopping yesterday because they have no money until the next paycheck despite likely having twice our income. Other leaches from her old neighborhood were getting free iPhones,unlimited data, and cash on a continuing basis as well. She has a car on a three year lease that the nameless person drives. We have to figure that out. I'm sure they got a great deal on the ski vacation in France when they dropped her off in the ER on the way to the airport. Christ I hope Medicare covers.  Pete will be shutting off the spigot, but it is straight up too late. She was a very generous woman and it stood her well in life but it sure leaves a mess.
 

I need to separate the grieving from the irritation.

Pete was talking to a step-sister last night who was rightfully stunned that the cash was burned through. This impacts her because the house needs to be sold and they expected a decent lump sum. As Pete digs through the mess they may be disappointed.