Again, so sorry, mate x

Griff, it is just so hard when parents, who were once so capable and fiercely independent, need support, guidance and protection, but they refuse to see it, and reject the help you offer. It is impossible to over-rule that decision by the very nature of the parent-child relationship, even though it becomes inverted as this thread title says.
In fact there is a Ukrainian saying which translates roughly as "If there are a lot of us, we'll manage to beat up Dad" which is about achieving the impossible ("Many hands make light work", sort of) and actually truly reflects how impossible it is for children to overturn a parental decision. At any stage in life. So please don't beat yourselves up, you and Pete. You did absolutely the best you could at the time with the information available to you at that point. x
 

One of the blessings-in-disguise when my uncle had to go into a nursing home was that for Medicare to cover it, he had to have basically no money to his name. So while he was still alive and cognizant, he let my dad help him sell his car, end his lease agreement, and liquidate/close all his accounts, which was still a lot of work, but left no nasty surprises in the end when he passed.

I wish more old people would unwind their own shit at least a little before the end, but I guess no one ever wants to think that the end might be near.
 

Dwellars bringing truth and consolation to the table today. You are some beautiful people.